A year ago today my pregnancy ended.
20 minutes ago I told my my 8 year old step-daughter (who has been in my life for 4+ years) “I love you!”. She said “Well, I don’t love you. You’re just my dad’s new wife”.
Some days it’s all just too much. Some days I can’t suck it up, turn the other cheek, ignore it, focus on the positive, be the better person. Some days it’s just too hard.
Steph Mignon said:
Wow. I have words for your stepdaughter’s response: Hurtful. Rude. Insensitive. And today of all days! I am sorry you are hurting. The pain of mc is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. Sending you strength, courage, and hope!
Ugh so hurtful. So devastating. I’m so sorry. I can understand your pain and frustration. You don’t need this, especially not today. Sending you strength xx
I’m so, so sorry for what you’re going through. I don’t know how old your step-daughter is, but I hope that someone will teach her the value of patience and kindness. 😦 Hugs!
I’m so sorry. Sending you strength and hope!!
I’m so sorry. What a crummy day. Sending you hugs!
Thanks you guys! Just needed to wallow in self pity for a bit. When I write my book “Boo-freaking-hoo by MyBrokenOven” today will be Chapter 12. But seriously, thank you for taking the time to read and reply. Y’all rock.
So hard. Big hugs hon xx
That was very insensitive, but I guess she is just a kid and probably doesnt mean most of the hurtful things she says. I am sorry today was horrible. 😦
That’s so not cool of your step-daughter…she’s way too young to be so mouthy! I thought you had to be a teen for that! I hope her dad is going to chat with her about that. I’m really sorry.
As a child who had stepparents that age, it’s normal. I know it hurts to hear, but she will come around. I had the hardest time between 7 and 12, then in my early teens, I started becoming kinder. I remember many times of telling mine “You’re not my father!
I’m sorry you had to hear that!
Thanks for the perspective! How long had you known them? Why were those ages so difficult? What can I do? I know a lot of it is her mother, but it doesn’t make it any easier to hear.
I’m sorry. Kids can say really hurtful, horrible things. I’m sure it’s normal, but I do hope your husband talked to her about it– she needs to know that it’s hurtful and that her words can have lasting effects on people.
Oh man…it’s just so hard, isn’t it? This summer I had my stepson tell me that I wasn’t a part of his family. Knife to the gut.
I’m so sorry.
Oh man, major suck! Have things improved?
Oh, I’m sorry, that is so hurtful! I don’t mean to get all armchair-psychologist but I bet she feels your love and loves you back big-time but just can’t say it yet.
Your love for her is beautiful. Keep on loving. That’s all we can do. xoxoxo
I’m so sorry! The pain you must have felt with those words is beyond grasp. Sending you as much love and sunshine as I can!
That’s terrible, I’m sorry. I understand being bitter about an ex-spouse, but it’s unacceptable to pass that vitriol down to a child. In time she won’t feel that way, but that doesn’t help the way you feel today. Again, I’m sorry.